لا اله الا الله!!!
{ When the hypocrites and those in whose hearts was disease said : their religion has deceived them; and whoever trusts in Allah, then surely Allah is Mighty, Wise.} (al-anfaal:49)
This week, I wanna work on an issue. An issue that had been hindering my personality from growing and blooming.
Have you ever heard quotes like this before????
Have you ever heard quotes like this before????
Yeah... It is about trust. Hard to gain; easy to shattered. Well; I have problem with trust. My past had taught me not to trust anyone; and when when I say anyone I mean everyone. Our past experiences had been found to be one of the factors that directing our behavior and our feelings. So; sometimes we can see a person who is once cheated by his/her partner; he/she will hardly open to anyone afterwards; not only to people who hurt him/her.
For example; a little girl had lent her friend a teddy bear. And one day; her friend return the teddy bear but it was all dirty and worn out with some of the cotton's coming out from its stomach. What do you think if the next time; that friend of the girl wants to borrow something; would the little girl gives them? Or what if other friends of her came to borrow some toys of her; would she give them away?
I know most of us had encountered one of many examples how people crushed our trust. Well for me; once bitten twice shy... Once people had let me down; never ask for second chance from me. I just don't want to have any relation with someone who never appreciate my trust. If they thinks that I gonna forgive them like that; they had me wrong.
Then I learnt that I need to start to open up to everyone around me. Especially those who care for me. Yes; not everyone is perfect. Maybe they will disappoint us but how many times actually we had disappointed them? How do they put up with our obsession of not trusting people and with all the craps that we threw to them although it is not true?
Every time we tell them how much we don't trust people; we are actually saying to them that we need some people to be trust- and we want them.
What would our life be when we don't trust anyone around us? Lack of trusting could lead to a miserable life. Each seconds and each minutes of our life; we will only think of the bad things that people will do to us. We will feel not safe all the time. Every time we will think what people do behind us... do they plot something against us? We will become very tired because we are busy not trusting everyone- making us do almost everything by ourselves. Example; assignment works; house chores etc..
In Islam; it teaches us to always have good mind to others - regardless of what they had done to us. And of course we had to be careful but it doesn't mean we have to reject them totally and thinking that everyone will be the same. Some time people breach our trust making us not to belief them anymore but that would be absurd to say that I will never trust people anymore. We just have to be careful and still treat them nicely. And of course; only to Allah should we put our trust to not to other human being. If we put our trust only to Him; we will never feel disappointed with people because we have faith that what ever people do to us it comes from Allah and Allah knows the best or He might be testing us as His slave to see how strong our faith to Him.
{Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, We believe, and will not be tried?} (29:2)
For example; a little girl had lent her friend a teddy bear. And one day; her friend return the teddy bear but it was all dirty and worn out with some of the cotton's coming out from its stomach. What do you think if the next time; that friend of the girl wants to borrow something; would the little girl gives them? Or what if other friends of her came to borrow some toys of her; would she give them away?
I know most of us had encountered one of many examples how people crushed our trust. Well for me; once bitten twice shy... Once people had let me down; never ask for second chance from me. I just don't want to have any relation with someone who never appreciate my trust. If they thinks that I gonna forgive them like that; they had me wrong.
Then I learnt that I need to start to open up to everyone around me. Especially those who care for me. Yes; not everyone is perfect. Maybe they will disappoint us but how many times actually we had disappointed them? How do they put up with our obsession of not trusting people and with all the craps that we threw to them although it is not true?
Every time we tell them how much we don't trust people; we are actually saying to them that we need some people to be trust- and we want them.
What would our life be when we don't trust anyone around us? Lack of trusting could lead to a miserable life. Each seconds and each minutes of our life; we will only think of the bad things that people will do to us. We will feel not safe all the time. Every time we will think what people do behind us... do they plot something against us? We will become very tired because we are busy not trusting everyone- making us do almost everything by ourselves. Example; assignment works; house chores etc..
In Islam; it teaches us to always have good mind to others - regardless of what they had done to us. And of course we had to be careful but it doesn't mean we have to reject them totally and thinking that everyone will be the same. Some time people breach our trust making us not to belief them anymore but that would be absurd to say that I will never trust people anymore. We just have to be careful and still treat them nicely. And of course; only to Allah should we put our trust to not to other human being. If we put our trust only to Him; we will never feel disappointed with people because we have faith that what ever people do to us it comes from Allah and Allah knows the best or He might be testing us as His slave to see how strong our faith to Him.
{Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, We believe, and will not be tried?} (29:2)
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